I absolutely know the feeling of what I like to call "Single Life Crises”. The Single Life Crisis is the moment when you are in your home alone and you’re watching love movies or listening to slow love songs wishing you are in-love with someone but come to realization that you are single. My favorite song when I was single used to be Ne-Yo (R&B singer) song called “So Sick of Love Songs” because it used to remind me to turn off these slow love songs and switch to music that are more upbeat and happy.
Living the single life is a temporary phase that most of us had experience. Being, single could have some fun times but the downside about being single is feeling lonely. I remember when I was single it seemed like everyone in my circle had a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse/partner and I was stuck living the lonely single life. There were a lot of times in the beginning stages of my previous single life that I felt extremely lonely and desperate to have a boyfriend just because it seemed like everybody else had one. If you are feeling lonely, trust me you are not the only one because feeling lonely sometimes is normal when you are single. You just have to find activities that you enjoy to distract from that emotion. Stay busy (or what my mom used to tell me “Go get you some business”) and focus on having a relationship with yourself. Make your current single status a happy positive experience. Remember the single life is only temporary because most likely you will not be single forever, unless you choose not to get involve in a relationship. Meanwhile, focus on the now and get out in the world and find different activities to keep you busy. The first thing you need to do before brainstorming activities; you have to change your mindset to accept the fact that you are currently single and focus on having a relationship with yourself.
Here are some example things you can do to distract feeling lonely.
Improve yourself physically and mentally:
Read motivational books
Go to school.
Take a dance class.
Learn how to play a new instrument.
Go on a trip.
Watch a sport game at a bar or lounge.Go to the spa.
Go to the movies.
Find cool social mixers to go to in your area.
Go to a Karaoke lounge.
Go to a Museum.
Go to an Amusement park.
Relax on the beach.
Go to a Concert.
Enjoy your single life!